Anonymous said: Stefan did slut-shame Elena though. He told Damon that he raped Elena with the sirebond but was simultaneously shaming Elena for sleeping with Damon. His "tell her to calm down, Damon" comment was disgusting as is his rest behaviour in season 4. And that scene where he drinks and looks and thinks as if hes above Elena and that shes beneath him and yelling at her until she starts crying, ugh. Worst is its season 7 and he is the same character that he was in s1 : 0 character development. Damon ->>
Anon, you should seriously write fiction with the kind of mess you come up with! Like honestly, I’m so fascinated by this!
“He told Damon that he raped Elena wit the sirebond but was simultaneously shaming Elena for sleeping with Damon” like WHEN was this? What episode? Which scene? Moving away from the fact that the sire bond at best complicates the idea of consent because as Julie said, Elena had the illusion of free will — and just in case you don’t know what a receipt is, I will show you one:
So moving away from the fact that Elena basically slept with Damon under duress, Stefan never said that she did to either Damon or her. What he did do in 4x08 was snap at Damon about how a sire bond could be the only way Elena could be with Damon (which btw is literally true: “The bottom line is that Elena as a human made a very, very, very clear
choice that she would love Stefan always and forever,” she says. “But
then her entire life turned upside down, and any feelings she originally
had for Damon were still there, and of course magnified. There was
always going to be a little bit of a confusion there for her — but not
enough confusion for her to be over Stefan. It would take a lot to rip
Elena away from loving Stefan. It would take years and seasons. We’d be
eighty, if we followed the natural progression of that relationship.” source) and he said it because he was hurt that he had to dump her because of her feelings for his brother, which is understandable! Like Jesus, you mean to say if you had a sibling and you were in love with someone, like deep in love, ride or die love, I will do anything you ask of me love and then you two break up because that person feels something for your sibling and your sibling has a long-ass history of disrespecting the boundaries of you and that person’s relationship, you’re not going to feel some type of way?? You’re just going to be completely OK with it, not have any feelings about the situation,not have a moment or two of anger and pettiness, you’re just going to be a perfect angel?
And Stefan immediately apologizes and later on in the episode tells Caroline he trusts Damon to do right by Elena because he knows Damon loves Elena just as much as he does. So like …
And anon, Stefan never slut-shamed Elena. Like I’m sorry to break it to you but that actually just never happened. The only person who slut-shamed anyone in season 4 was Elena to Caroline when Caroline made snide remarks against Damon, which is valid considering that Damon is her abuser, her attempted killer and her rapist, and Elena shames her for sleeping with him the minute she met him even though we all know that that night ended with Damon biting her and causing her pain. What Stefan did do in 4x11 is snarkily tell Damon to make Elena calm down because of what I just said above; this is two episodes after he found out the two people he loves most in the world screwed each other’s brains out the day after he broke up with one of them and it’s an episode after Rebekah made Elena go in detail about why she’s with Damon, so yeah, Stefan is feeling some type of way. When Damon feels some type of way, dude literally goes out KILLING people. I will take snark over homicide any damn day of the motherfucking week. Also, you have an uncanny ability to ignore context, I’m pretty sure Stefan tells Elena to calm down after Elena is about to be on some shit after Damon being Damon i.e. being a dick betrays Stefan’s privacy and tells everyone that Stefan slept with Rebekah, as if Elena had any right to say anything at all on the matter when my girl was with Stefan’s brother.
And the scene where Stefan drinks and side-eyes Elena was in 4x02 and again, this is the taking shit out of context thing you do … my man was mad at Elena because she blood-shared with Damon, which as we know is a very sexual and intimate act, and she did this when she was with Stefan. Granted, Elena didn’t actually know the full details about blood-sharing because your boy Damon took advantage of her newness and her hunger and conned her into doing something incredibly private, but you mean you can’t understand his frustration when all of season 3 was spent of Elena being like Stefan or Damon? Stefan or Damon? Stefan or Damon? And she chooses Stefan, talks about forever with Stefan, says picking him is the best choice she ever made and then she’s relying on Damon just as heavily as she’s relying on Stefan and there are no boundaries between the three of them? Like yeah, I would be upset too. Not to mention that scene freaking ends with Stefan comforting Elena through her emotional turmoil and coming up with the idea to memorialize the dead so she can get some peace of mind! Like your examples of Stefan being “shitty” are literally like things he does in one minute because he’s a dimensional character and then he gets over himself and helps Elena through whatever she’s going through. And it kills me because Damon drags out his pettiness over episodes and seasons and people die because of it, lives are destroyed because of it, families are ripped apart because of it but Stefan was kind of rude for that one minute so he’s the shitty person. OK. Makes sense.
I’m, like, for real sad that I didn’t get your second part because I was looking forward to reading more of this fascinating fiction, like we were getting to the good part about how Damon apparently grew as a character, as if he isn’t doing the same thing he’d been doing since season 1, pining for girl and killing everyone because of it while also being a terrible brother to Stefan. But I mean, we can’t have everything, I guess.
